Love is an enigma to mankind. As much as God is. Whereas God is still easy to dismiss as non-existent, when some want to; the inherent need for love is difficult to dismiss by the same people. The ‘love-need’ is as perceptible, and equally impossible to dismiss voluntarily, as breathing is to life.
The love-need is universally seen. Spanning all life forms. It is the same urge running through the zillions. The bird, the fish, the goat, the donkey, the pig, the dog. Even the plants, science now says, respond to love. An artist, poet, musician, sculptor, writer, all try to depict it. The thinker, the philosopher, even the scientist, the mathematician! Or the deeply religious, or the atheist…. who has not dabbled with love? The mathematician says, “I Love the figures.” The artist tries to capture it in his figures! The religious say, “Love God”, the atheist say, “Love Mankind first!”
What is this deepest, consistent need in all life forms? Why is it always felt lacking, wanting? And for the human, who is blessed with free-will, it is always a seeking. Seeking outside of him. In some person, relation, or even a pet. A career graph or some material acquisitions. But, the ‘seeking love outside’ is a thrust to all our passions, engagements. In fact, it is the direction we take, continuously. Where ‘love’is expected, anticipated, we turn towards it, where it is not, we turn away, naturally!
Love is a pointer, that shows the direction, on the path of self development. Love is not something you meet outside, but you find it within.
Enclosed and identified with her / his body alone, a person, is aware of only her / his wants, needs, desires, hopes, aspirations, expectations etc. She / He is individual-centric. With this default notion, she looks at other life forms, who can fulfill her. If someone does feed some aspect of her, she reciprocates, but, only as much as she is is being met with or has capacity. And, it is largely left unmet, or compromised, in the entire of one’s life. Such a view and approach, is missing the opportunity that Love unfolds.
The felt – want of love, is a way of telling, to be that person. To be the love you expect. Love, pushes one to encompass the other. The other gets folded, as if, within the individual-centric field. Looking from other stand point, the individual -centric circle has expanded. Is this then, the purpose of Love? To show the direction of self growth. From individual -centric default mode of living, to the universal-encompassing conscious living.
Love has many names. It has many forms. It has many expressions depending on the roles and relations. It is called by respect, regard, devotion. It shapes as fondness, like, adoration, pride. It has expressions as care, share, give, receive. But, all in all, it points to the direction we need to grow towards. Love is only a North Pole star! Walking towards it is developing the love. When it gets developed enough, it shapes as compassion. Compassion, the highest point of inner development and the greatest expression of love, culminates in knowing oneself as the non-dual! Where all beings are embraced within, who is now the centre of expansion, so vast, that everything falls in it. The individual -centric notions now have fallen off, like petals for the fruit.
Few embark on this beautiful journey, for it means to give up on the individual, which, for most, is fraught with fear. A ‘loving person’ is ‘the happy, peaceful person’. A ‘wanting to be loved person’ is ‘the ever distrubed person’. If man seeks peace, he needs to develop himself, to love.
Turn the Valentine day as a reminder, do I grow towards the Pole star called Love, or do I wait for the star light to shine upon me!
© Deepti Vishwanath
14th February, 2017